Caring for the Caregiver
It's happened again...and this time I truly did not see it coming. I took the time to have my 7 hours of sleep each night, I ate a good breakfast, I made time to play music with my team-but lo and behold; I am hoarse. My voice is frail, and I dare not sing. The good news is, I have no fever. The better news is that I can hone in on my use of deep listening and expand my string and keyboard repertoire. However, as a therapist, I am finding I need once again to take a look within...how did I lose my voice? And the answer takes me to the return of a familiar theme-and one, even as a seasoned clinician, I seem to keep coming back to: I did not take good enough care of myself. Ugh! I teach and preach this to my students at Hahnemann, and to fellow colleagues at Beth Israel-We have conducted workshops and even a training on "how to" care for ourselves as caregivers/therapists. We use Charles Figely's compassion fatigue scale each year to stay aware. So-I ask myself...how am I at this place again? And then the worst of it is: I can pinpoint the very day that I over-extended. The day I took on too many sessions, no lunch, and no squeeze-out tension time. I did not make time for me. I would like to know about ways our readers care for themselves on the job. What kinds of creative methods do you have in place for yourself and amongst fellow staff? How do you release the tensions of what you absorb? When you read the phrase: "care for your self" on the job...what comes to mind?


















I knew that their concerns were well-founded, but when one of them offered a workshop at conference a couple of years ago I was stunned by how poor my care practices really were and how many bad habits I had which contributed to the poor state of my voice.
To release tension as a music therapist one may think that I'd use music to unwind. But to really unwind I've begun painting. I've had a need to try another creative modality for self-expression and painting has been it. Painting is quiet and doesn't require any instruments to be lugged around. It's tangible and lasts where music making isn't unless it's recorded. All I hear is the canvas and brush and I love it. Another great thing is continuing ed courses. Last year I took a class to help with caring for myself. I took the course 'Music and the Self' at Anna Maria College's, Institute for Music and Consciousness. Loved it. It has helped me tremendously as a musician and music therapist to keep the learning process going. Hope this helps.
I also have lots of difficulty with over-extending myself and not eating because of time constraints - both of which are highly hazardous. One very simple thing that I do is to keep essential oil diffusing in my office. I use a ceramic ring on top of the light bulb on my desk lamp, and drop in a few drops of lavender essential oil a couple times a day. It helps pick me up, and I find that all kinds of people stop by simply to say hi and sit in my office for a minute. I guess it must make them feel better, too!!